Miss B

Well, we decided to take Bridget trick-or-treating. We were going to wait until next year so that she wouldn't be scared by any of the costumes that she might see or decorations. However, after getting to know her a little more, we decided that she would be fine. She likes to scare us and likes to be scared! We didn't get her costume until Halloween so there wasn't much to choose from and that is why she is dressed as a witch. She started out looking a little confused as to what we were doing, but as the evening progressed she got the idea and was constantly pulling on Kirsten to hurry up and get to the next house. It was really fun to watch her.

I would also like to say that I have decided to change my nickname for her from Miss B to.....drum roll please.......Noodle Girl! To stress my point, she just came to me and asked for mac and cheese for breakfast! I have never met anyone who has such a fetish for noodles!!! Everytime I ask her what she wants for dinner, she wants noodles! Her favorite, so far, is cold mac and cheese! EWWWWWW!!!!! So, Kirsten fixes a HUGE pot of mac and cheese once a week so that Noodle Girl can have them for dinner when she wants to. (Kirsten loves to cook! There is a God and He loves me!!!) ;)

As for how we are adapting, Noodle Girl has taken to living with us as if she has never lived anywhere else. We are learning her language more than she is learning ours I think! She has a strong personality. She is a bit of a tomboy though. She LIKES to watch football even when she is by herself. She LIKES to watch monster trucks even when she is by herself. She actually turns the tv to the HISTORY channel when she is watching tv by herself and can watch cartoons if she wants to! My son, Chance, has always loved watching the history channel so it works for him that she likes it too!

We have learned that we have to be VERY, VERY careful what we say and do around her. She picks up things quickly! Too quickly! The other day we were watching the Cowboys play and they fumbled the ball and I said "Oh, Man!" just as she was coming out of her room. She looked at me funny, laughed and then went up the stairs repeating, "oh man!". Kirsten was messing with her and gave her a puppy dog look with her bottom lip sticking out and now Noodle Girl does that to us when she wants something and we won't do what she wants! It is too cute!

This is at the same water fountain in Tartu just before our court appointment. We had about an hour to spend some time walking around and seeing how beautiful the city was.

This is my favorite picture of Bridget. She fell asleep while reading her dad's motortrend magazine with her play glasses on. She started putting them after she saw her dad put his on!

This is Igor (pronounced Egor). He was our contact/guide for everything we had to do over there. He was truly a blessing.

This is a picture of Bridget and the woman who has cared for her for 7 years. It was very heartbreaking to split these two up. I did hug her several times and try to get her to understand that Bridget would be well taken care of but I know she was heartbroken.

This was at the orphanage at dinner time. Bridget is on the end in the black dress.

This is their version of the Leaning Tower of Pisa, also located in Tartu.

This is a water fountain in Tartu which is were our court was. It isn't very far from Elva.

We have lift off!!!!!

I just got a call from our agency and we can go get Brigit in the fall! I can't believe that it is actually happening. It seemed like it was never going to reach this point! After I get done running around in circles a few more times, maybe I'll be able to function and figure out what I should do next! There are a ton of things to do. Good thing I have Melonie to rely on! Thank you Melonie!!! You are an angel!

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

I came across this verse and thought that I would post it. I think that it is a wonderful verse.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand it's own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it's been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith. It's always hopeful and endures through every circumstance.

Got new info on Brigit today!!!

Here is what was sent to us today in an email:

She is expeditious and has an active take in her surroundings. She is a very helpful child. She notices the things that need to be done and where she can help. She manages to serve herself very well and helps her mates if needed.

She is active with her hand movements. She likes to draw, build, knock up. (I get from this that she is creative. Which will work great because Kirsten and Chance are creative.) She is helpful and friendly. She likes to clean, help her teacher. She does get along well with her mates in a friendly way. She is a brave and active communicator.

That is not all it says, but it gives everyone an idea about who she is and what I saw when I visited with her. I could tell that she was very independent.

What would you do if you became instantly wealthy?

That guestion has crossed my mind often over these last 2 years. Before we started this adoption process, I might have said, oh...... (after tithing) I'd take a long vacation with all of my kids and I'd buy them all a new car. I would get out of debt (including the mortgage) then retire on what was left. But, now I feel with what we have been doing with the adoption, I think that one of the first things I would really want to do would be to adopt as many children as I would be allowed to. It is sooooo overwhelming to see that there are so many children in this world without a family. I never really thought about the numbers until we started this adoption. It is really heart wrenching to KNOW how many children need a home. I look at some of the faces of these kids on various adoption websites and think to myself, I wish I could give her/him a home. I think about the children that are at the orphanage with Birgit and just want to bring them all home with me. Especially this one little boy, Raiko. He has a heart problem. I would never have guessed it when I met him. He was very polite and a happy little boy and energetic. He just looked so much like he needed someone to sweep him up and take him away to a family. Could I request of anyone who reads this site that you pray for him to find a family? I don't mean that he is any more special than others of that particular orphanage. He just kind of planted himself in my heart that day I was visiting with Birgit and I would love to see him get a home.

Another Day in Adoption Limbo

Well, here I sit again just looking at pictures of Birgit. I have come to the conclusion that this is a lesson in patience for me. I just hope that I pass!;) The time isn't actually going as slow as I thought it would. It is going to be the 4th of July soon and then Walt will be going to Estonia to visit with Birgit sometime between the end of July to the end of August. I am going to pack a bunch of stuff for him to take for Birgit and the kids at the orphanage. We didn't intend for him to go alone. We were just going to wait for our court date, but due to certain circumstances, he will need to go and see her then I will go for the court date. I think that this will work out better though because then she will be able to see that someone really is trying to adopt her. It must be frustrating for her. I think that if I were in her shoes, I would want to be with my family right now! Not waiting for them and waiting and waiting......

Won't be going til fall y'all!

Well, I found out that the Estonia courts are closed July and August. Also, because we didn't get a notice for court within the last 2 weeks, we won't be going during June. I feel kind of disappointed, yet, am relieved because we are not ready to go get her. I can imagine she might be ready for us to come and get her though. At least I hope she is! So, we will spend the next 2 or 3 months getting prepared to go in Sept/October. (Oh, by the way, this is a picture of Walt and I during our trip to visit my sister, who I haven't seen in 5 years, in Las Vegas and my son in California, who was heading to Afghanistan.)

Received a form from Estonia court

We actually received this form about 1 month ago. There have just been so many other things that I have been doing that I hadn't taken the time to post. The form that we received was for her birth certificate. We had to put what we wanted her name to be. I had hoped that we wouldn't have to actually commit to anything until we had a chance to talk with her about her name. So many people have a hard time with Birgit. Since it is Scandinavian for Bridget, we thought that we would call her Bridget. So, her new name is going to Bridget Allie. Allie after my wonderful grandmother who passed away 5 years ago. Also, we were thinking that we could be getting our court date in June or July. I just found out a couple of days ago that the courts in Estonia take the summer off. Soooooo.......it isn't likely that we will be going until the fall. I am kind of sad that we won't be going soon, but it does give us more time to be prepared for it.

We are approved!

We got our I-171H in the mail today! I can hardly believe that it only took a month! I have been hearing some horror stories about it taking 2 or 3 months and was convinced that is how it was going to be with us. It only took 2 weeks from the time we got fingerprinted before we got the approval in the mail! What a relief. Now all we need is to get our court date and then we can finally go and get our new daughter. To think that it only took 2 years to do it!

Just waiting......

Here is another picture of Birgit. I took this during my trip to visit her. I can hardly stand the waiting to be able to go and get her. I spend every day wondering what she is thinking or doing. Does she think about us? I did get to leave her with some family pictures. Maybe she is looking at them and getting some comfort from knowing that this is going to be her family.

Bridget

This is Miss B. playing with the paper dolls that I took with me.

The Value Of Life

To realize the value of a sister

Ask someone who doesn't have one.

To realize the value of ten years:

Ask a newly divorced couple

To realize the value of four years:

Ask a graduate.

To realize the value of one year:

Ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize the value of nine months:

Ask a mother who has given birth to a stillborn.

To realize the value of one month:

Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week:

Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one minute:

Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one-second:

Ask a person who has survived an accident.

To realize the value of a friend or family member:

LOSE ONE

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.

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This is the land surrounding the orphanage. It is next to a huge lake. The lake is surrounded by a fence so the kids are unable to get to it. I guess that Elva is a vacation spot for many people. There are several big homes in the area, but I didn't see many places for people to have jobs. It looks like it would be a nice place to live.

Another day......

This is some of the children that are at the orphanage. I think all of them were 7 or under. Except for Birgit. They had kept her home from school that day because I was coming to visit. Birgit is the one to the right in the purple coat. Apparently they do have her in a speech therapy class because she isn't up to her age level for speaking. I don't know Estonian, but it sure sounded to me that speaking wasn't a problem for her! She was trying so hard to talk to me and I didn't have a clue what she was saying. The boy that is in front, I believe is Raiko. He was very talkative and wouldn't stop pushing buttons on my camera. He was being taped when I was in the room with Birgit. He loved the gummy worms that I brought for Birgit. The gummy worms came with a pair of tweezers that had a little light that would come on when you picked up the worms and would cause the worms to glow. The looks on their faces when they saw the worms glowing was priceless! The next picture is of the orphanage. It is a 100 year old home that was owned by a doctor. The offices are located to the right in what was probably the quest house. That is where I hung out with Birgit for most of my visit.

More pictures

This is the airport/mall in Amsterdam. It was HUGE! Tons of places to shop. Good thing too! I had lots of time on my hands. I didn't buy anything though . This is a Lego town that I found on display. Everything was made from Legos! I had to have a picture of it because my youngest son was a Lego fanatic up until a couple of years ago. The picture on top is a statue that looked like a cross between a samurai and raggedy andy!

Still Waiting.........

Just thought I would throw in some more pictures of my Estonia trip. This is Birgit and I "doing" lunch. It was a small cafeteria. I had a "hamburger", unlike anything I've ever had before. They drowned it in some sort of sauce that had an odd flavor to me and I don't even want to think about the mystery meat! I do know that it wasn't any beef that I've ever tasted! I know that my husband will enjoy our trip to Estonia when we go and get her. He is more adventurous than I am and will enjoy trying everything. I noticed I look a little washed out. I had only gotten about 3 hours of sleep since leaving home and arriving in Estonia. I think my total sleep time for the 3 days may have only been 8 hours! The seats on all the planes were extremely uncomfortable. I would never recommend taking an overseas trip in 3 days to anyone!!!! I think that you need a minimum of 2 days to recuperate from the 1st round of flights before starting the 2nd round in getting back! I did manage to lose 10 lbs because I couldn't eat a thing and had 7 hours to kill in Amsterdam so I did a lot of walking!

I finally went on my preview trip to visit Birgit. I only visited with her for 5 hours, but it was a good visit. She is an adorable little girl and very polite. I just wished that I could have brought her home with me right then. This whole adoption process has been long and frustrating for me. I know that it will be worth it when we finally do get her home. It probably won't be until July or August before we get our court date to get her. I am not looking forward to the wait, but I know that time goes by so fast that it will be here before we know it. I have lots of things left to do in getting ready for our trip as well as getting her room finished.

In this picture, I was allowed to take her to lunch. She loves coke! She cleaned her plate and then took her plate to the rack that was used for dirty dishes.

This is the most recent picture of Birgit. Isn't she adorable? I think that she is 7 in this picture. Not for sure, though. She just had her 8th birthday in March. Hopefully, we will be able to get her home before her 9th birthday.

HISTORY OF THE UNITED STATES RELATIONS WITH ESTONIA

The United States has maintained diplomatic relations with Estonia continuously since July 28, 1922. The United States Embassy currently occupies the building which housed the U.S. Legation in Estonia from 1938 to September 5, 1940. Estonian diplomats have been accredited to the United States Department of State in Washington, D.C. and Estonian consular representatives have operated in the U.S. continuously since 1920. Estonia was visited in the early days of its independence by American diplomats who went on to celebrated careers in the United States' foreign service.

The United States never recognized the forcible incorporation of Estonia and the other Baltic republics into the Soviet Union. Following the restoration of Estonian independence on August 21, 1991, the United States opened its Embassy in Tallinn on October 2, 1991 under the direction of the late Ambassador Robert C. Frasure. The United States Mission resumed operations in the current Embassy chancery building at Kentmanni #20 in 1992.